The Bottoming Book: How to Get Terrible Things Done to You by Wonderful People Paperback – Illustrated, December 1, 1998

I love this book as a clear explanation of the rights and responsibilities of a bottom.

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This 2001 edition of what I consider to be a classic BDSM book is expanded and improved. An additional 69 pages (I don't think that was on purpose) covers changes in the community and resources that are available. It focuses not solely on how to get what you want as a bottom but also how to give your top what they want -- this balance of advice can be difficult to find but Easton and Liszt have done a great job here. There are 10 different chapter that cover everything from basic "how do I feel about this" to "how to do X" to more rare and less physical aspects of some peoples' scenes. It is not geared toward any gender or orientation except it does not cover 24/7 or TPE couples in any way -- but those are advanced subjects and practices anyway. This is a book I have both bottoms and tops read in my household and among those I recommend books to. If you haven't read it, please do so even if you've been doing this for 40 years you can learn something or see something in a new light.

This book is a great introduction to the world of bottoming, with sections on the choices you have as a bottom, negotiating scenes with a Top, finding a Top, doing scenes and role play, and aftercare. Mz Easton & Listz's writing style is very easy-going and easy to follow. Any sub and for that matter any Dominants can learn a lot from this book.

Catherine & Dossie give us another great book. It is short and concise and very helpful. The sections on the psychological effects are particularly well explained. Also full of great info for Tops... my Mistress loved it too... it helped us discuss what my needs were and what she expected of me... I consider it required reading for Tops and bottoms....