Jacob TobiaSissy: A Coming-of-Gender Story

I liked the honesty of the author. We have to believe that our desires are natural as long as they are not hurting ourselves or others.

Wow. What a powerful story! And another example that children are pure and if we would listen to them instead of brush them aside, you would learn a lot!! When they spoke about their childhood, I felt SO seen and heard. I cried at parts that weren't particularly cry-inducing. And I could not put this book down!If you don't understand the "whole gender thing", then I highly recommend you read this book. There is swearing, there are triggers, and it can get real. But read the introduction, and you'll know exactly what to expect. They do a very good job at that.A lot of people don't like this topic. It's become political. When really it's personal. It's all personal. And if it's not you, is it even your business? Sorry not sorry, but if you're not affected then you shouldn't pass judgement or condemnation. Period. Especially if you call yourself a Christian.One last disclaimer that may help you on your journey, if you don't understand this "stuff". Sex and gender are not the same. Sit with that. Pray to who you pray to, and BUY. THIS. BOOK.10/10 recommend

I am a member of the Equity & Diversity Book Club at my child's school (@brooklyntech_hs). And through this group, I am exposed to books I wouldn't necessarily choose for myself, but end up loving.This book is about Tobia's journey through gender identity. I never know how to say this, so forgive me if the terminology is slightly off. I'm trying.Jacob describes the moments in their life when they knew things were not as simple as being a boy/girl. The activities are familiar -- playing ball, or dolls, or games on a playground. For some kids, these are the most loaded, complicated situations. I will never look at child's play the same way again.Tobia is a really good writer. And their willingness to share their experiences is super educational.On a personal note, I love this kid's audacity and boldness. I fully believe your late teens and early 20s are for pushing your boundaries to figure out who you are and aren't. There are lessons in this story for all of us.#bookstsgram #bookchallenge2022 #readeveryday📚

This is an enchanting, humorous, good-natured, and utterly captivating coming of age story with delicious surprises at every turn. While it certainly expands the trans canon and is a good companion read to Laura Jane Grace's "Tranny...", the true message here is for every human being on earth to just BE -- and free themselves from the strict societal pressures to conform to gender norms. For some men, folding in a trace of femininity might mean nothing more than being able to show emotions without being called the P-word or some other weaponized word to denote femininity equals weakness. For others, they might enjoy exploring their feminine sides in public with a dash or makeup or a dollop of color. When I came out as gender non binary long before there was a term for it besides cross dresser, transsexual, or pervert, almost ALL of the married women I talked to (conservative and liberals) admitted to me their manly husbands experiment with lingerie in the bedroom and femme (mocking, because as Jacob says, its safer) Halloween costumes. When Jacob appeared on The Daily Show I was brought to happy tears in an instant. Finally a media figure who just IS happy in their own skin and not transitioning from one gender absolute to another. Their interview, and this book, really helped me find happiness exactly where I am right now -- living authentically without hormones or surgery. Our sexual orientations are different. Jacob digs guys. I dig girls. And still (because they are totally separate identity markers) we share so many milestones on our respective gender quests. Sissy is a life saving, life affirming, life changing, totally entertaining read. As for the prose itself, Jacob is a gifted writer -- humorous asides and sharp wit at every turn, each paragraph a fully realized work of art -- and yet the whole story stays on a fast track and never derails. Such a thrilling read -- happy tears indeed. "Whiny"? as one other reviewer so eloquently declared -- heck no. "Witty" for sure. Perhaps that other review was an auto correct error.

First, full disclosure, I’m also non-binary. Jacob’s story left me wondering what they really had to complain about. Other than the atmosphere so many cis and LGBTQIA’s face in middle school, they seemed pretty fortunate. Their family supported them. Their church came around fairly painlessly. College offered more than most others ever encounter. Their life was full and fulfilling. The only real complaint I saw was they weren’t able to change straight political venues to suit them and their love life was, at the time of writing, nonexistent. So many others have it so much worse. In the end they had a career and a future that was filled with promise.

The media could not be loaded.  I’ve never in my life found any literature that made me feel as if I wasn’t alone in my gender identity struggle. This book validated all of the feelings I had growing up. If you’re struggling with your gender identity, which in my opinion shouldn’t be something we even have to think about, This book is made for you. If you love somebody who is non-binary, gender fluid, intersex, trans, confused, doesn’t adhere to societal norms on gender, and honestly every single human being that wants to make this world a better place for everyone

What an amazing, amazing story! I always tell people that the best stories are true, and that certainly rings true here. Jacob paints an incredible journey that anyone who grew up genderqueer or not can get into.

I enjoyed this book because of it's irreverent comedy but also the insight it gave into a person's life who didn't fit in to the common mold. It helps to understand some of the challenges and also the beauty of people's stories who are either trans or gender non-conforming.

Eye opening, educational and entertaining. I would recommended it to everyone!

So, so, so good!

Los pasajes de vida que comparte Jacob son escenciales para entender como la sociedad a construido el género, afectando la vida plenas de las personas que no se adhieren al binario. Y cómo estas construcciones de género, afectan a todas las personas en diferente medida.

Gives you a perspective and helps build empathy towards folks that don’t define themselves by the gender binary.

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