The Highly Sensitive Person in Love: Understanding and Managing Relationships When the World Overwhelms You Paperback – January 9, 2001

Elaine is a wonderful author, writing this touching insight into relationships, both with others and with yourself. If you have a sensitive mindset, then you should enjoy the reflections you will experience when reading..... If you are not a sensitive person, then I have no idea whether it would appeal to you or not. Thanks for the beautiful trip Elaine!

This book has been incredibly helpful. My husband is highly sensitive and I cannot express just how wonderful it's been to be able to understand him more. This book goes into great detail about all the facets of being a highly sensitive person and how to love someone that is one.I'm the kind of person that has a hard time connecting certain dots (I think it's because i'm so logical) so I really need someone to just set it all out on the table for me. Elaine Aron is a fantastic researcher and scientist and I think SO many of us could be benefitted by her books.I'm sure we all know a lot of people that are this way that we just don't realize. If we just learn how to help and love them our world would be a better place.The only thing I don't like about this book, really, is that it sometimes puts highly sensitive people on a higher plane than other people, although she is constantly saying that they aren't better or worse than anyone else. Sometimes I think she boosts them up so much that it seems like she really does think they are better than other people.Anyway, this book was incredible. This author is amazing. The seller was great. I received it in a very timely manner and it was in great condition.

I borrowed this book from a friend during a long bus ride years ago, and even though none of the romance-related advice was immediately relevant to me at the time, the ideas Aron presents were extremely helpful. Aron claims that about 15% of people naturally have more sensitive nervous systems (in her terminology, they are Highly Sensitive Persons, HSPs*), and that this is a biological difference that has a major impact on our social existence. This model has made a lot of sense to me, and it has helped illuminate many of my own reactions and patterns, as well as those of my family and friends.Now that I'm in a serious romantic relationship, the particular contents of this book (as opposed to Aron's first book, The Highly Sensitive Person) seemed more relevant, so I bought a copy from Amazon. It had been several years since I looked at it, and I'm amazed yet again at how insightful the author is. She writes with compassion and wisdom, and she cites studies and research to back up her claims, as well as illustrating them with real stories. I highly recommend this book for any HSP who has moved past believing that the opposite sex has cooties.*Check out [...] for more information about what this means.

While I continue to think that Aron's work is a bit too heavy on how bleak in some ways a sensitive person's turmoil-filled life is, and non-sensitives are portrayed as sort of numb versions of a human being, I STILL think that if you are sensitive or love someone who is, there is some useful information in here when considering a sensitive's attachment style and tendencies in relationships so that these can become more conscious and dealt with in a clear way - both within the sensitive and in the relationship. It also helps point out the clear dynamics of sensitive/non-sensitive as well as sensitive/sensitive relationship patterns, and there's a good reminder toward the end that sometimes, people just have problems, and Aron gives some good hints as to which ones to stay away from. She does that in a couple of places. And, while perhaps one doesn't want to hear it, it's still good advice. So, not the be all end all, but some really good info in your quest to understand yourself or one you love.

I've recently discovered that I'm an HSP and have really desired to read more to understand myself. Even more, I've wanted to understand why I've done certain things or felt certain ways in relationships. This is the book for that. I'm still ready (I need to slowly digest the content), but it feels as if it were written for me and is giving me a lot to talk about with my wife that isn't focused on what she's doing but what I do & need.

This book offers great insight and perspectives for being a HSP or non-HSP. It goes into examples of what might come up in relationships and is so helpful. Brings a peace of mind knowing that there’s nothing wrong with either side - we’re all just wired differently!

It's a decent book. Some people will probably like it. I feel like it maybe reflects the author's own experience of herself and her self-understanding a little too much. So the closer your own experience to hers is, the more it will resonate. It's based on decades of personal experience. But it's not based on decades of general research and study or clinical work. So it's personal value is potentially high, but it's general and scientific value is a more middling. When you read someone who's really an expert in their field and can back it up by decades of work, you can tell. This is more of a personal account than an authoritative look at the subject.

I enjoyed this book for many reasons, it repeated many common themes on the subject and was quite in depth.As a logical person the facts and stats on empathic people were incredibly helpful. Things I thought made me “crazy” are legitimate and real lol.It gave many “options” to consider on your path interacting with others as an empath and really promoted thinking outside of the box to be happy.Mostly it helped me feel like this is a real gift to be developed and cherished and not a disability.There are many things my boyfriend and I have been doing right and there are things we can improve on as my gifts develop.Look forward to reading more of her books!