Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two

I ordered two copies of this book, one for each of my twins. They are 9, and found this book easy to read. I ordered this for them even though the divorce is about 5 years in the past because we still seem to have ugly adult issues that come up from time to time. The information in this book seems to resonate well with my kids, and will probably do the same for yours.

I bought this book for my daughter who is 11 years old I am reading it before I give it to her and it seems Perfect for her!!!! I think it is clear and right to the point with all the feelings and emotions that have happened and that will transpire as things change. I feel it will help her along this tough process but assure her that things will be good again.

In the first few months after I moved out of our marital home, my five-year-old asked me to read this at bedtime on the nights that she was with me. We just opened to a random page and read for a few paragraphs. Opting for 50/50 custody was the hardest thing I've ever done, but I believe it was the right thing so that my kids could have both parents. This book gave us language about emotions and normalized some of the struggles she was having. Six months in, and we don't read it as often as we did but I think we could pick it back up for a refresher.

This book is very helpful with my son and are family. I like the fact that one does not need to read the book from front too back to get the answers that are need at the time. We struggle with the transition days. He is at each house every four days and the parenting styles are polar opposite. We this book helps started the discussion and my son can identify with the issues with the book. Many books deal with the accrual divorce and very few deal with the after math of making life work with shared custody. The world is not set up for two house holds.

Husband and I recently gained 50/50 custody with my stepkids (age 9 and 7) and moved into a house a mile away. The kid's parents have been separated for over 5 years. I was hoping this would be a good way to review the big changes that have been going on. I was thinking of leaving this on the bookcase for the kids to pick up and browse when they were ready or interested. So I just read the book and this is geared towards mature 10 year old kids and older. For younger kids this will provide good parent/kid discussion ideas. This is not a read together type of book.The book provides guidance for the kids on the changes and how to own and take control over the changes. Examples like how to organize yourself, questions to help you be prepared for change, self check questions for anxiety. I liked the 6 step solution breakdown which will help kids for their problem solving and I think this would be useful. I love the breathing techniques and "feeling soup" concept.Unfortunately I don't think this book is a good fit (at this time) because the kids are being coached and alienated by their mom. While some of the statements would be good talking points or ideas for the kids to use when having a conversation with us - we don't feel the kids know the difference in what they are saying vs what they are being coached and thought this book might provide mixed messages. Example is the chapter on abuse (their mom regularly asks them if we hurt them and has called CPS on us before) and having the kids ask to not see the one parent (which may make sense in certain scenarios, but not for ours right now). I think that I'll hang on to this book and see if it would be helpful in a year for the transitions the kids are having at the time.Bottom line: great book for 10+ year old kids if the parents divorce without active alienation. This book provides guidance to help empower the kids during this emotional and tense time.

I am a psychotherapist and use Mom's House, Dad's House for parents, and this is a great addition to work directly with kids about their parents divorce and going between homes.

I love this book for my counseling groups

Clear, well-written, easy to use for any situation. Nearly every situation or feeling children of divorce are facing is addressed.

I baught this book for my step daughter who is 10, recommended by my therapist.I read the book first and it is amazing. I love it! Easy to read, provides great tips. I know my step daughter will enjoy the book and hopefully it helps her with having two homes.

Useful reference book to helpFamilies split up to consider children and help children cope

I bought these for my step daughters kids and the book was very helpful.

Really clear and good for both my daughter and myself to read together.

Super comprehensive guide for tweens undergoing parents' separation, divorce, and/or remarriage. Dr. Ricci does a great job of breaking down what kids need to know in order to thrive under new conditions, to feel proud of their family regardless of labels or situation, to understand that they are loved and important and not to be used or blamed. This book has an accompanying title for parents.I almost think this could use an update, in the bits about technology especially. But also there are new developments in divorcing like nesting and conscious uncoupling and collaborative law that I think will definitely deserve mention in the next edition.