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# The Verbally Abusive Man - Can He Change?: A Woman's Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go Paperback – October 1, 2006

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## Customer Reviews

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ 5.0 out of 5 stars







  
  
    Incredibly Insightful
  

*by W***A on Reviewed in the United States on November 14, 2009*

I read this book after leaving my husband (and about 6 months after reading Patricia's first book, The Verbally Abusive Relationship). I found both books incredibly helpful in their own way - the first book in explaining the different types of things covert verbal abusers do (many of my x-husband's behaviors upset me but it wasn't until I read that book that I finally really saw the overall pattern and fully understood how soul destroying his abuse was). She also explains the behaviors of overt verbal abusers (what most people have come to associate with the words 'verbal abuse' - name calling, yelling, threatening, etc.).That information gave me the insight I needed to leave my marriage. What I personally couldn't understand from the first book, however, was Patricia's explanation as to why abusers do what they do and what my relationship with my husband was really about. This newer book explained that so clearly I cried for days. I found that it was essential knowledge for me in being able to let go. After all of her years of counseling both abusers and the abused, Patricia seems to really understand the thoughts and emotions behind abusive behavior. After reading this book I came away feeling more empathy for, but also more detachment from, my x-husband. It also gave me valuable insight into how damaging the relationship had really been for me.Personally, I would recommend first reading the The Verbally Abusive Relationship before reading this book as I think it provides important background information for this book. One thing I found interesting is that in the first book Patricia listed out 16 traits she commonly found in verbally abused women. In this book she listed one - that the victim feels "irreparably flawed." I thought that was a perfect description of how I had come to feel and her book explained why I felt that way about myself. The other insight I found extremely helpful is that she doesn't recommend couple's counseling - she has found that the abusers end up manipulating the counselor into blaming the victim and it ends up empowering the abuser. After reading her explanation, I couldn't agree more.This book provides wonderful advice for how an abuser can recover IF (the big if) they want to. Mostly however I think this is valuable for verbally abused women to better understand what is really behind the abuse and what their relationship is really about.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ 5.0 out of 5 stars







  
  
    Opened My Eyes
  

*by T***A on Reviewed in the United States on October 13, 2023*

I am grateful to Patricia Evens for writing this book. It has opened my eyes to what I've been experiencing for years. Thank you for the simple, yet insightful explanation of what a verbally Abusive person is and how to spot one. Thank you & God bless you!

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ 5.0 out of 5 stars







  
  
    Must have for anyone dealing with this type of situation
  

*by A***R on Reviewed in the United States on March 21, 2014*

This review is for all of her books, I personally have purchased several complete sets, and given them to women who are dealing with these types of issues and bad relationships.  Each and every person that I have made read these as part of their therapy have found themselves more than once inside the pages.  When a book or books, will bring tears, and anger enough to throw them across a room, but then to go and pick it up and continue reading... then you have found a good tool for learning the "How's and Why's" of very bad situations.  The only downside isn't in the books, they are straight forward and honest, it's the people who will go and read them, admit and say they understand, and turn around and walk back into the situation, back into Plato's Cave...  Education... revelation... insight... only works if you are willing to set aside the comfort of the known, to embrace the unknown and potentially better life without the abuser.  I can not tell you that the world will be better if you read these books, but... I can tell you that the world will be better if you not only give up the bad, but stop repeating the cycles by finding another abuser, just because you "understand the rules"  To understand why a Man is like this, (yes, there are abusive women as well), is to take away their power to hurt and manipulate you.  Buy it, read it, give a copy to a firend.

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