Quercus The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k: The bestselling book everyone is talking about

Thank you, Sarah Knight, for saying what I've always thought. Baby showers and birthday parties should NOT be part of the workday. Way too often, women are convinced that being social is being professional, and they waste valuable time that they will NEVER get back. I was once told that I "work like a man." I took that as a compliment and hoped female colleagues would follow suit. My boss (when I worked for a large corporation) once asked me, "How can I make this upcoming year better for you?" I answered, "I'd like to stop cooking meals for my staff, since I work at a financial institution." She took it as sarcasm. I was serious. Ladies, budget your time, energy, and money according to YOUR values and goals and NOT according to other people's insecurities and wishes. If you need a friend who gets it, read this book.

I will start by saying I really liked the Get 'Stuff' Done journal and Get 'Stuff' Done book by Sarah, and overall, I actually do enjoy the author's humor, writing style and excessive cursing!However, I felt the book lacked in explaining exactly HOW to not give any 'fox' about what others think about you. I felt like the author just jumped right into, "you shouldn't give a 'flock' what others think, ok? SO don't. Simple. Their feelings are their problems. End of." But I need to know some exercises and psychology for WHY I shouldn't care about what others think of me, and why I shouldn't care if I can lessen any pain towards someone. It was to the point where I flipped back a few times thinking that I must have missed a page, or that my book must be missing sections. Luckily, I've already been doing a lot of work on stopping people pleasing, so I know there ARE answers to this issue, she just didn't include many. If you are new on this journey and want actual guidance, check out other books on the same topic.There also was no advice on if your "enjoy" lists were too long and how to cut THOSE lists down if need be. I guess the author wouldn't know what that felt like, though, which brings me to my next point:I also thought the author was a true 'grass hole' at times, which was interesting considering her main goal and insistence on never becoming a grass hole. Examples would be listing things that she absolutely cannot stand and then calling people who care about those things or ideas, hurtful names. Naysayers have no place in my life--they made my "do not give a fox about" list. I didn't find any of those hater moments humorous or insightful either...it just seemed like she wanted a book to rant about and/or make fun of everything she thinks sucks. (which is a LOT of things by the way...almost everything it seems...)Calling out inventive ideas as "dumb" in her book was just low. Making fun of and stereotyping people who live in certain places also made my "no more fox to give" list, which she also did in this book. Don't like dog sunglasses? Off you flock then. Leave it at that. No need to call anyone who uses them or creates them "dumb." Things like that are why so many of us stop dreaming and stop creating. Is that her problem? No. But she doesn't need to continue to contribute to that for literally no reason except to throw in one more jab at people who take their dogs out in the wilderness and on adventures. There were other ways she could've made these points funny but she stooped low instead and didn't follow her own advice.To sum it up, she is definitely not someone I would ever tell any of my ideas to. People like that are generally perceived as "toxic," which is why any friend I had like her made my 'flock off' list. I would never invite her to anything either, seeing as she seems to want no social interaction with anyone for any reason whatsoever. And her initial issue with saying no to the simplest invites (I mean, c'mon, bar trivia? THAT's what you've been lying about then intentionally flaking on your friends?) Every example she gave was for shallow reasons. I've never had an issue telling a friend that I cannot attend her "2nd bachelorette party in Cabo" because I literally cannot afford it, and neither can my "average" friends.What I struggle with is the feeling that I need to help everyone, and my GENUINE desire to help people and be around people and invent "dumb" things and create art and really enjoy life. I thought this book would help me narrow down my "want to do it all" lists, and help me grasp why I feel like I want to help others so much, even when it puts me in a major bind. This book does not cover that. This book is for people who don't WANT to do anything, and don't have the guts to say no.But I know, I know. I shouldn't care what this author thinks or how she is...however, she is writing self-help books for vulnerable people who are in tough places trying to get some help managing their time and loved ones and passions. I would've given the book 5 stars if she explained HOW to not care what others think a bit more and if she didn't dole out so many low blows. The majority of the book was so funny and enjoyable to read but those little moments ruined it, and the complete lack of understanding of the root issue makes me believe the author is still on this journey herself and is in no place to be making money off of people seeking her advice.

This book is AMAZING! And I am learning so much! I can’t wait to apply this to my life

Witzig geschriebenes Buch. Die Autorin hat Humor. Zum Teil war es mir etwas zu oberflächlich und zu viel Wiederholungen. Es ist nicht tiefgründig und man kann es an einem Tag durchlesen, ohne viel reflektieren zu müssen.

I should start by saying I'm a trained therapist, so when I read this I found myself reading it with a critical eye. Overall, it reads like a kind of humerous Cognitive Behavioural Therapy book, in the sense that it talks about changing your behaviour now rather than focussing very much on the history of why you give a Frog.I like what this book does: it encourages us to think of our Frogs in quantifiable units and to consider where we're expending them. I hadn't thought of itemising and allocating the care I give for certain issues like this, so I'm taking something useful away from this book. I think it would be interesting to work out how many Frogs you can give each week before feeling worn out.I'm not trained in CBT but I suspect this book isn't terribly robust from a therapeutic perspective, but it makes a valliant attempt at it, especially considering this book is clearly making an equally-strong effort to be humerous.I had a good chuckle, I learned something, and that's all I ask from a book.Oh yeah, and I read it during my lunch breaks while I was working as an admin at a small business run by a family of Plymouth Brethren, who can't stand swearing, and ignore their non-PB staff entirely while breaking bread, so I got an extra layer of satisfaction from reading this book. Thanks Sarah Knight!